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Attunement Therapy is a modern healing modality founded on some of the most
ancient biological principals relevant to human physical and emotional health.
Evolution has wired us to be physically connected with other people on a regular basis to maintain a healthy body, to de-stress and to heal.


Attunement Therapy not only provides the opportunity for safe, neutral, non-s3xual touch;
it is so effective that it can deeply re-organize the nervous system, so that clients walk away with
a heightened sense of self and the stronger drive to seek more healthy physical connection with other people.


During an Attunement Therapy session, the client reclines beside the body of the practitioner with their head rested on their chest so they can hear the practitioner’s heartbeat. The nature of Attunement Therapy, along with it’s unique consent protocols, allow the client’s entire nervous system to access very deep states of relaxation where their body can enter into a natural and automatic ‘reset’ function. The key to Attunement Therapy’s success is the fact that most of us need another person to regulate, process and manage our most difficult emotions. This is called external regulation. The most simple way to achieve external regulation is through touch.

Attunement Therapy works directly on the autonomic nervous system and the parts of our mind we call the ‘unconscious’. The unconscious mind is 95% of how we think and feel, so this modality helps reduce fear, trauma, stress and anxiety in our life. Its influence on the nervous system has a hormonal effect which leads to enhanced digestion, immunity, s3xual function, longevity and over all physical wellness.


  • Do you want more healthy human connection in your life?

  • Do you feel separate from others or that you don’t belong?

  • Do you feel empty or not good enough/ abandoned/ rejected?

  • Do you want to heal an emotional imbalance such as stress or anxiety?

  • Do you find it hard to calm down and relax?

  • Do you have a physical injury that needs to healing?

  • Do you have a chronic illness?

  • Do you suffer from addiction or compulsive behaviors?

  • Do you feel unsafe in your body or in the world?

  • Do you have traumatic events you want to heal?

  • Do you suffer from destructive emotional habits such as rage, violence or resentment?

  • Do you suffer from relationship or s3xual dysfunction/s3xual confidence?

  • Are you looking for more positivity, happiness and hope in your life?

  • Could you do with more creative inspiration in your life?

Disconnection is the root cause of so much of the pain present in today's society, and connection is the antidote.

This healing modality is stunning in its simplicity and effectiveness.



Healing ourselves automatically by simply being physically close to other people in our family, community or tribe should be unmentionably normal. Sadly, due to many factors in the ‘West’, such as scarcity, competition, trauma, latent religious values and government policy – we live in a society that has hyper normalized a physical intimacy deficit. – And it has become unmentionably normal.

We can heal the mind and subsequently the body through physical human connection.

The level of relaxation Attunement Therapy generates in the patient gently reclines them into a super conscious connected physiological state. Their body’s natural healing intelligence takes them on a visual and emotional journey back to health. The ‘unconscious’ parts of their mind are put behind the steering wheel and leads them to the emotions and memories they most need to process. This is often followed by automatic relevant emotional insight, realizations and affirmation that allows them to let go of past issues. Being held in this way re-connects them with a sense peace and enthusiasm toward their past, present and future.

We are Built to be Intimately Connected with Each Other

Our normalized lack of gentle, unrushed, and non-s3xual physical intimacy means that this idea of Attunement Therapy may seem outlandish to many people. The fact is that we are built for regular physical intimacy. Many of us suffer from health issues because of the deficit of physical intimacy in our lifestyle. The truth is; that in the ‘right conditions,’ our body will be automatically able to regulate and correct itself. But for many – the ‘right conditions’ have been misplaced.  



The exploration of how an infant’s brain develops in the womb and outside it, is the key to attaining insight into how physical intimacy with another is the simplest way to heal.

We were all infants once. Consistent physical intimacy was the factor that kept us alive and healthy. A mind opening example of this, is that of pre-mature babies, put in an incubators. If they are not touched – skin on skin regularly, then their brain will stop growing properly. They left the safety of the womb too early so they need human contact or their body can literally give up.

‘In animal experiments, its known that physical touching induces growth hormone production, promoting better weight gain and development. These finding also apply to human beings. In a study of premature babies, incubated infants were divided into two groups. All their nutritional and other needs were identical accept for one variable: One group was given 15 minutes of tactile stimulation, three times a day over a period of two weeks. Providing this form of stimulation to these babies resulted in significant acceleration a weight gain, increased head circumference and improved behavioral indices compared with the control group….
Interactions with the world program our physiological and psychological development. Emotional contact is as important as physical contact.
The two are quite analogous as we realize when we describe the emotional experience of feeling touched.’

Gabor Mate
When the Body Says No:
The cost of Hidden Stress

Further more, human contact is not just the key to healthy infant growth, it’s the key to maintenance. When a baby is br3ast feeding, their physiology believes they are back in the safety of the womb, where all their biological needs are freely provided. In the womb they are totally at one with their mother, that occupies the space all around them. She selflessly keeps them warm, protected and nourished. We can’t forget that this reality does not solely apply for infants. The brain we built so rapidly as infants is the one we have now. Its immensely important to grasp that these healing concepts apply to us as adults. We were those infants.


For some parents going through relationship difficulty, they can literally see the level of their rift by observing the neediness in the behaviours of their baby, toddler or child. On the surface, on a mechanistic level we may be behaving like loving, kind parents however on the subconscious level, we are broadcasting our negative emotional state to our child through mirror neurons.

The relationship rift makes the baby upset and she will need a lot more skin-on-skin contact and br3astfeeding to counteract. This is due to her naturally seeking closeness, in order to try to regulate and metabolize the outer emotions she is experiencing and attempting to process (not her own) that are caught in her body. If the parents are able to work through the issues in their relationship, the child is able to feel at peace again.

In the most extreme cases of emotional overwhelm we instinctively seek close human contact as quickly as possible so that we may metabolize this energy and soothe our nervous system. This picture is from the Korean War in the early 1950s. This would be a common scene in any war, where hardened soldiers begin to emotionally crack because of the trauma and loss they are regularly exposed to. It is sad that men, for the most part, will only hold each other unconditionally in this way as team-mates in the human experience when the circumstances are only the most severe. The mission of Attunement Therapy is to normalize holding each other, and to offer emotional regulation to those around us and ourselves on a regular basis.


Many of us did not have our Attunement needs met as infants. We simply were not held enough. Separation during infancy scars the subconscious which is most of our automatic thoughts and feelings. Many adults are those same neglected infants. They have highly increased chances of feeling consistently alone, separate, stressed and fearful. It’s unavoidable. Unless we learn how to re-write that tape.

Do you have trouble reaching out to others for help? Do you feel a regular lack of trust, lower sense of safety, emotional security and low self worth?

Being exposed to controlled crying while your brain was in rapid development could be the cause. When we are babies, we are reading the environment and creating our brain for the future where we expect the same environment to exist. In this case, we are becoming hyper-vigilant and hyper-independent because we become en-trained to believe that we can’t count on other people when we need them. If left un-checked, as adults, we won’t speak about our problems or ask for help.

Most adults today in Western Society were exposed to controlled crying during infancy as normal parenting practice.


‘This is a widley used by controversial technique, used to train babies to go to sleep alone…. Basically, controlled crying involves refusing your baby a response when they cry out at night.

You begin by making them wait a few moments, then keep making the periods of refusal longer and longer, until, supposedly, they learn how to fall asleep all by themselves without bothering you… But there are serious problems with this technique.

First of all, its is based on the expectation that babies need to learn to fall asleep all alone, all the time – the very opposite of what babies have, over millions of years, evolved to expect. This enforced self-reliance comes long before the child is biologically ready for it and ignores her most important attachment needs. For the sake of retraining the baby’s behaviour, this technique ignores the fear, helplessness and betrayal the baby feels while crying out for a parent who won’t come… When you are gone, babies cannot understand that you will come back. They can reassure themselves by imaging your return, which makes your absence all the more devastating…

It is nothing like falling asleep contentedly, felling connected to you. By the time the baby gives up on calling you, he has gone through what developmental neuropsychologists call the ‘defeat response’. On the surface it might look like peaceful slumber, but it is more like a state of shock and numbing out, a collapse of all the healthy efforts to reach out for human contact, with none of the pleasure associated with the sleep that comes through emotional security…

Some babies become so frantic after a period of crying alone that they throw up. Imagine how distressed you would have to be in order to vomit.

Once your baby’s brain becomes habituated to producing the defeat response, this practice becomes neurologically set it. The child’s brain is then more likely to use resignation as a strategy to face stresses later in life. The risk with these techniques is that they program the child’s brain to give up on reaching out to others. Ignoring a baby undermines his trust, his sense of safety and emotional security, which can have adverse effects on his later behaviour and relationships.’

Robin Grille
Heart to Heart Parenting: Nurturing your child’s emotional intelligence from conception to school age

Attunement Therapy works on the opposite principals to controlled crying, where your physical needs are met and you can be held in a safe, present, un-rushed way. The healing power of Attunement Therapy can re-wire the brain and heal the damage caused by controlled crying leaving you confident to reach out for help in your life and express your emotions where you KNOW they are welcomed by your partner, family, friends or therapist. This also helps lift your own level of compassion and empathy so you can hold other’s through their emotional processes.


For infants, lack of touching is not just neglect, but it has the same physiological crippling effect as what we call ‘abuse’. Not abuse because of something done to a child – but something – not done. Unmet tactile Attunement needs of babies impairs physical development and at the same time, gives baby the first inkling that they are not desirable or lovable. Later life events will manifest to further re-enforce those earliest impressions

Intimate Adults

If we want to be healthy; then we are not supposed to ‘grow out of’ and ‘harden away from’ the need for regular close human contact and intimacy. Attunement Therapy not only reminds, but relapses the mind of the client, into the sensation of being held by a parent. They feel safe, heard, loved and received.


Many people have unprocessed emotional baggage they carry around with them, whether they are aware of it or not. When we feel relaxed and safe and free of the pressures of task completion or indulging in entertainment, then its automatic for the human body to look at our past story, and begin healing it. However, most people never feel truly safe and relaxed and they don’t allow their body to naturally heal. Other people know their ‘stuff’ comes up if they give them selves space and this frightens them so they stay numb or distracted with addictions.

Its hard to be physiologically interested in s3x or food when we are stressed or not feeling safe. This is the intelligence of the body keeping us in check by pumping blood away from the stomach and s3xual organs. In the same way, its hard to review, and metabolize our past issues when we are not feeling safe. Attunement Therapy offers the environment for clients to naturally fall into the natural healing and release of the past.

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